There's this girl, see...

Dear The Masked Crusader,

So, I was friends with this girl about 10 years ago while in school. We were really really good friends, but somehow we lost contact. So, I found another great girl and got married. Recently, I found this other girl on the internet and have been wondering about her off and on for the last few years. I want to contact her, but I don't know if she'll remember me or be totally weirded out that I emailed her. Should I let by-gones be bygones or can I contact her without it being to awkward?

-Thanks a pleanty

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Dear Thanks,

Your predicament is an easy one. First of all, before you even think of contacting this old girl, make sure your wife is in the know. You wouldn't want a divorce because your wife thinks you are having an affair. Be open and honest with your wife before you pursue this other girl.

Now then, you should not contact her out of the blue unless you know how she will act. If you were border line stalking her when you were in school, then the answer is a definite no! Not only would it weird her out to get an email from you when she doesn't even know you're looking for her, but you might be slapped across the wrist with a restraining order. The best way to get in contact with this femme fatal would be to find her on one of the social networks. Look at MySpace or Facebook. It's much less weird to be contacted from one of those websites than directly by email. Another fine way to contact her without it being weird is to find some of your mutual friends on the aforementioned social sites and ask them if they are still in contact with her. If they are, you can get a sense of how weirded out she would be to be contacted or have them do your dirty work for you. Send your friend an message or email to let her know you say Hi. If she is interested in picking up communication with you, she'll contact you back. If you have already done all these things and she hasn't acknowledge your attempts, it's best to stay away. She obviously doesn't want to talk to you and the ball is now in her court. When she is ready, she'll contact you.

Cheers,
The Masked Crusader.